If there’s one thing I’ve learned on this unpredictable journey as a behavior analyst, it’s that the moments when we feel out of place are often the ones that shape us the most. Let’s talk about imposter syndrome—oh, that feeling that whispers, “Are you really qualified for this?” For those of us who work with children but don’t have biological kids of our own, this feeling can be especially daunting.
Imagine this: you’re sitting in a room full of experienced parents, teachers, and caregivers. Maybe it’s a meeting, a workshop, or even a casual conversation. You’re there to offer your expertise on managing challenging behaviors, but inside, a little voice is nagging at you, saying, “What are you doing here? You don’t even have kids of your own. How can you possibly understand?”
Sound familiar? I’ve been there (and still visit there), too. It’s as though that little voice is trying to shield you from the discomfort of feeling like an outsider. But here’s the twist: that voice, unsettling as it may be, is actually your greatest teacher.
I remember the first time I truly felt it. I was leading a parent training session, surrounded by people who lived and breathed the day-to-day realities of parenting. They were tired, dedicated, and, let’s be honest, a little skeptical of the “expert” without children. My mind raced with thoughts of how I could possibly relate to their experiences. But then, something incredible happened. I realized that every parent in that room had, at some point, felt exactly like I did—uncertain, overwhelmed, and questioning whether they were doing enough for their children.
That realization was comforting, reminding me that I was exactly where I needed to be. From that point on, I started to see imposter syndrome as a companion on my growth journey—not as an enemy, but as a guide.
Imposter syndrome shows up when you’re pushing your boundaries, stepping outside your comfort zone, and reaching for something bigger. It’s a sign that you’re on the verge of something amazing. Instead of letting it hold you back, use it as a compass pointing you toward your next growth spurt. Every time you feel that twinge of self-doubt, remember that it’s because you’re leveling up. You’re stepping into a new version of yourself, one that’s more capable, more resilient, and more you than ever before.
So, the next time you find yourself in that space—where you feel like an imposter, like you’re not enough—pause and recognize it for what it is: a powerful moment of transformation. You’re not alone in this. We’ve all been there, and we’ll all be there again. And in those moments, when you feel like you’re on the edge of something new, trust that you are exactly where you need to be. Trust that you’re growing into the professional you’re meant to become.
Crystals that help navigate Imposter Syndrome:
Citrine: A radiant yellow crystal that is said to attract confidence, abundance, and success. It is believed to energize the Solar Plexus Chakra, which is linked to personal power and self-confidence.
Rose Quartz: Known as the "Stone of Self-Love", rose quartz is said to promote compassion, peace, and tenderness towards yourself. It can help overcome negative self-criticism and boost self-esteem.
Carnelian: A vibrant red crystal that is said to boost confidence and courage. It is associated with the root and solar plexus chakras and is believed to restore motivation and promote self-esteem.
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